Male and female created He them

God created people and their having sex is by His design

And he answered and said unto them, Have ye not read, that he which made them at the beginning made them male and female, Matt 19:4
And the Lord God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him. Gen 2:18
And the Lord God formed man of the dust of the ground, and breathed into his nostrils the breath of life; and man became a living soul. Gen 2:7
And the rib, which the Lord God had taken from man, made he a woman, and brought her unto the man. Gen 2:22
And God blessed them, and God said unto them, Be fruitful, and multiply, Gen 1:28
Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh.  And they were both naked, the man and his wife, and were not ashamed. Gen 2:24-25
this was before the great sin in the garden of Eden. This is how God made man and woman. He could have kept on making people this way, from dirt and ribs, but He didn’t.
And Adam knew Eve his wife; and she conceived… Gen 4:1
The apostle paul wrote in corinthians:
But and if thou marry, thou hast not sinned… 1 Cor 7:28
And Jesus said:
Wherefore they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder. Matt 19:6
Seeing ye have purified your souls in obeying the truth through the Spirit unto unfeigned love of the brethren, see that ye love one another with a pure heart fervently:                    1 Peter 1:22

God created people and their having sex is in His design, this great blessing from Him can sometimes get outside of what He planned for though. When He said to only have sex in the confines of marriage it wasn’t because He is mean or prudish or anything like that. It is because it is such an intimate act that we can get really hurt if we do it outside of a caring loving committed relationship. Some people say they have that outside of marriage, but I wonder how committed people are if they aren’t willing to be married to the other person, to make a public commitment. I am not the judge of these things though, and don’t desire to be. Marriage was intended to be permanent and a caring, loving relationship between two people that love each other more than themselves. Marriages have problems when one partner doesn’t love the other more than themselves. Sometimes one partner has lust that causes them to seek their own pleasure more than their partners. Even if they don’t intend it, they fulfill themselves and leave their spouse feeling empty and unhappy. That is what lust does, it seeks its own. If both partners have lust, then their sex life can become exciting physically for a season, but it soon becomes empty emotionally. This also causes one or both people to seek more and more, either in variety or frequency, it becomes addictive.
That every one of you should know how to possess his vessel in sanctification and honour;  Not in the lust of concupiscence, even as the Gentiles which know not God:         1 Thess 4:4-5
Not (to be used) in the passion of lust, like the heathen who are ignorant of the true God and have no knowledge of His will, 1 thess.4:5 amplified
Dearly beloved, I beseech you as strangers and pilgrims, abstain from fleshly lusts, which war against the soul; 1 Peter 2:11
That he no longer should live the rest of his time in the flesh to the lusts of men, but to the will of God. 1 Peter 4:2
By pureness, by knowledge, by longsuffering, by kindness, by the Holy Ghost, by love unfeigned, 2 Cor 6:6
Charity suffereth long, and is kind; charity envieth not; charity vaunteth not itself, is not puffed up,  Doth not behave itself unseemly, seeketh not her own, is not easily provoked, thinketh no evil;  Rejoiceth not in iniquity, but rejoiceth in the truth;  Beareth all things, believeth all things, hopeth all things, endureth all things. 1 Cor 13:4-7
in the amplified bible it says the same thing only more easily understood:
Love endures long and is patient and kind; love never is envious nor boils over with jealousy, is not boastful or vainglorious, does not display itself haughtily.  It is not conceited (arrogant and inflated with pride); it is not rude (unmannerly) and does not act unbecomingly. Love (God’s love in us) does not insist on its own rights or its own way, for it is not self-seeking; it is not touchy or fretful or resentful; it takes no account of the evil done to it [it pays no attention to a suffered wrong].  It does not rejoice at injustice and unrighteousness, but rejoices when right and truth prevail.  Love bears up under anything and everything that comes, is ever ready to believe the best of every person, its hopes are fadeless under all circumstances, and it endures everything [without weakening]. 1 Corinthians 13:4-7 Amplified Bible
Often when people think about having a sex life with no lust they think boring, un-filfilling, no fun at all, no passion. If a man seeks to come together with his wife and is being patient and kind, not jealous, not haughty or arrogant, rude or self seeking and seeks only to please her, and the wife comes to the bedroom in the same spirit seeking only to please him, you may never get them to come out of there again because it will be so passionate. A good test to see if what you are doing is ok in God’s sight is to ask Him. Also see how you feel when you are done, if you are filled with condemnation and guilt or emptyness it is maybe not something you should be doing. Are you doing something that is degrading to your spouse? If you are doing something that is ok and you still feel shame you can ask Him to take away any shame that is not from Him. Remember that He made us and sex was His idea.
Let nothing be done through strife or vainglory; but in lowliness of mind let each esteem other better than themselves.  Look not every man on his own things, but every man also on the things of others. Phil 2:3-4
So it in marriage it isn’t the act of sex that is wrong, it is the spirit it is done in. It is whether we come together in true Godly love or in lust. Lust is self gratifying and self seeking.
…see that ye love one another with a pure heart fervently: 1 Peter 1:22
We can ask Jesus to sanctify our sex life.
To open their eyes, and to turn them from darkness to light, and from the power of Satan unto God, that they may receive forgiveness of sins, and inheritance among them which are sanctified by faith that is in me. Acts 26:18
If we are willing, Jesus can deliver us from lust and fill us with that passionate fervent love for our spouses.
Seem impossible?
But Jesus beheld them, and said unto them, With men this is impossible; but with God all things are possible.Matt 19:26
The things which are impossible with men are possible with God. Luke 18:27
… the love of God is shed abroad in our hearts by the Holy Ghost which is given unto us. For when we were yet without strength, in due time Christ died for the ungodly.     Romans 5:5-6
…but first gave their own selves to the Lord, and unto us by the will of God. 2 Cor 8:5
And be ye kind one to another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God for Christ’s sake hath forgiven you. Eph 4:32
Husbands, love your wives, and be not bitter against them. Col 3:19
Likewise, ye husbands, dwell with them according to knowledge, giving honour unto the wife, as unto the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life; that your prayers be not hindered.   1 Peter 3:7
Wherein in time past ye walked according to the course of this world, according to the prince of the power of the air, the spirit that now worketh in the children of disobedience: Among whom also we all had our conversation in times past in the lusts of our flesh, fulfilling the desires of the flesh and of the mind; and were by nature the children of wrath, even as others.  But God, who is rich in mercy, for his great love wherewith he loved us,  Even when we were dead in sins, hath quickened us together with Christ, (by grace ye are saved;) Eph 2:2-6
If you have been used to having sex in the wrong spirit you may notice a problem with not being able to be stimulated without things that are harsh or perverse, if you are patient with yourself and willing to have a Godly intimacy, your ability to feel again will return. Its kind of like if you have ever had a substance abuse addiction and went through detox. For the first week it was difficult and you often had flat moods or apathy but after a week or two things brightened up and you began enjoying life again.
Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord.  For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body.  Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in every thing.  Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it; That he might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of water by the word,  That he might present it to himself a glorious church, not having spot, or wrinkle, or any such thing; but that it should be holy and without blemish.  So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself. For no man ever yet hated his own flesh; but nourisheth and cherisheth it, even as the Lord the church: Eph 5:22-29
You won’t love your spouse truly if you don’t respect them.
And the Lord was gracious unto them, and had compassion on them, and had respect unto them… 2 Kings 13:23
These things have I spoken unto you, that my joy might remain in you, and that your joy might be full.  This is my commandment, that ye love one another, as I have loved you. John 15:11-12

Too often women disrespect their husbands and men disrespect their wives, both demanding their own needs first or putting their spouses in roles that arent aligned with what Jesus is doing.

One day an angel miraculously released peter from jail and he went first not to his own home, but to the disciples and told them all the Lord had done for him. Now his wife might have been home worried sick about him and she could have gotten mad that he didn’t come to her first, or at least call to say where he was. I think she probably took her concerns to Jesus instead and didn’t rail on him when he finally did get home, realizing that both of them served Jesus first and each other second.
One day my sister was in the grocery store and in an isle she came upon a person writhing on the floor having an epileptic seizure. The Lord had her stop and pray and the seizure miraculously ended. Her husband *cough *cough might have been at home that very hour grumping and cursing about her for dawdling in the store because his dinner was late or perhaps even non existant that evening. If he did and he thought about it from an Upward perspective, he might see that he might be grumping about the Spirit of Jesus in his wife, who was being about her Father’s business.
In Christ Jesus there is neither male nor female, Jew nor Greek, but Christ Jesus in all. Being married is tricky business, especially because we marry flawed beings not yet made perfect by the Lord. We must strive to be servants of Jesus, clothed in humility, not lords over God’s heritage.

Now back to sexual immorality and a pure marriage bed, when people sin and they are convicted in their hearts they  often reach for a fig leaf to cover their nakedness. When I read about Adam and Eve it occurred to me that they sinned by eating a forbidden fruit and tried to hide their nakedness, but if nakedness were the sin then God would have created them with clothes from the beginning. When we try to hide our sins we often avoid the real problem. Ahh, but the real problem is usually very hard to deal with and painful and we think better kept in the dark! Jesus said that to be free from something we need to bring it to the light, He is the Light. We are to bring it to the Light and confess our sins.

Confessing sins is a thing that should be done in a wise manner. There are some people that if we confess our sins to they will not keep confidentiality, there are some people that are judgmental even when they don’t intend to be, some are too shocked, some are condemning and some will say, you ninny why did you ever do that, what is wrong with you?! If you can find someone after the Lord’s own heart, someone who will help you find His forgiveness and grace to stand, then you should confess your sins to them. If you cannot find someone like that and really are pressed to confess but afraid to do it to anyone you know, you can call some organization like the 700 club or someone like that and confess it anonymously. It is such a relief to get things out in the open.
You may think that people will hate you when they find out what you’re really like and have really done. And you may think that nobody else has done things as awful as you have. King Solomon said there is nothing new under the sun. Jesus has been around a long time, forever actually, He’s seen it all before, He still chose to go to the cross for you and me. He said, “… for I knew that thou wouldest deal very treacherously, and wast called a transgressor from the womb.   Isaiah 48:8

For God sent not his Son into the world to condemn the world; but that the world through him might be saved. John 3:17
Herein is love, not that we loved God, but that he loved us, and sent his Son to be the propitiation for our sins. 1 John 4:10
He is despised and rejected of men; a man of sorrows, and acquainted with grief: and we hid as it were our faces from him; he was despised, and we esteemed him not. Isaiah 53:3
But he was wounded for our transgressions… Isaiah 53:5
…And they cried out the more exceedingly, Crucify him. Mark 15:14
And when they were come to the place, which is called Calvary, there they crucified him… Luke 23:33
Then said Jesus, Father, forgive them; for they know not what they do… Luke 23:34
And he said unto her, Thy sins are forgiven. Luke 7:48
…Son, thy sins be forgiven thee. Mark 2:5
…Man, thy sins are forgiven thee. Luke 5:20
I write unto you, little children, because your sins are forgiven you… 1 John 2:12
And it shall come to pass, that whosoever shall call on the name of the Lord shall be saved. Acts 2:21
If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins, and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness. 1 John 1:9
If the Son therefore shall make you free, ye shall be free indeed. John 8:36
Sometimes we have a difficult time repenting from sexual sins because quite honestly they can be pleasurable. The thing is though, that it is temporary pleasure and if we continue in them it is like every other sin, eventually you end up going farther than you expected. You cross boundaries that you swore you never would, you do things you never thought you would or intended to. With sexual sin you have to do more and more depraved things to get the same enjoyment. It is like chasing a drug, you have to use more to get the same effect, or like a maintenance alcoholic you have to keep feeding it. Eventually you get a tolerance built up for the substance or sin and it doesn’t satisfy you anymore. Moses had to choose between the pleasures of this world and following the Lord.
By faith Moses, when he was come to years, refused to be called the son of Pharaoh’s daughter;  Choosing rather to suffer affliction with the people of God, than to enjoy the pleasures of sin for a season; Heb 11:24-25
The next several blog posts deal with particular types of sexual immorality and I hope that I can show you the unending grace and forgiveness that Jesus extends to us, and His ability and desire to change us.  When the Lord led me to scriptures about this I was cut to the quick, but it was worth it because i came out the other side of it a changed person. Someone i respect and dont have to be ashamed about.  For the word of God is quick, and powerful, and sharper than any twoedged sword, piercing even to the dividing asunder of soul and spirit, and of the joints and marrow, and is a discerner of the thoughts and intents of the heart.  Neither is there any creature that is not manifest in his sight: but all things are naked and opened unto the eyes of him with whom we have to do. Heb 4:12-13
Whenever I was overwhelmed with guilt or shame He led me to passages that dealt with my shame also. When I received these scriptures it was like a conversation with Jesus, He would show me a sin I had commited and I would feel really bad and ask Him to forgive me. He then showed me a scripture of someone that had felt the same way and then He would comfort me and show me how He could change me so I didn’t have to do that sin again. He cast out my condemnation so I could look at my sins honestly in the Light and be set free from them, I pray He will do the same for you.